Ok, so I really like the idea of being a minimalist. I already love the idea of everything having a place, and everything being in its place. I am that mom that answers the never ending questions of, “Mom! Have you seen my shoes…” or jacket, etc. with, “Did you put it away?”. But how can you be a minimalist with a son or daughter who has autism??
I enjoy asking myself, “Have I used this in the last year? Or does it have sentimental value?” And if it doesn’t pass I like reselling or donating it. But how do you pull this off with a child who keeps a running inventory of everything he has ever owned in his mind!?
Seriously, passing clothes down from mr. L to mr. C is not usually easy. It can be a process of physically showing mr. L how his clothes don’t even fit him anymore, and occasionally items can’t be passed down. It’s too upsetting, stressful and not worth the fight. So sometimes things just have to quietly go away, or be replaced by something as similar as possible. But that’s just clothes!
Toys are a whole other ball game. I can gather up and set aside a bag of toys and 3 months later when I think I’m almost out of the clear mr. L will ask for a specific hot wheels or Thomas train… and if by rotten luck I got rid of it there can be weeks of crying until I just go get him another one. Yes, this has happened.
So I’ve done different mantras; does it bring me joy? Can I live without it? And my go to- have I used it in the last year? Is there an autism mantra I could use??
I think my family would benefit from living a more simple life. Less clutter, less cleaning, more free time, and more experiences over piles of stuff. Even mr. L could benefit, because I know when the toy room has a cleared floor, he can spend hours laying out train tracks…. But he needs the space to do it. And personally I would rather meet some financial goals and vacation goals then get more stuff.
I read that if I keep asking myself, “Do I really need this?” at home, I’ll be better about the same question at the store and I like that idea.
So how do I tackle this better without upsetting my kid who “needs” all his things? Tips? Tricks? What mantra did you use? Let me know in the comments! ✌️ Thanks!