If you have followed along with our story so far then you know that our family has moved a lot over the years… 11 times in 10 years but who’s counting? And with most of these moves we have needed to find a new family doctor for the kids each time.
I’ll let you know that we have found a great doctor this time but it took awhile to find him. We first started off with this old guy that was far from great. In my experience old doctors are either kind and have learned that they don’t know everything and are wonderful, or they have hardened over the years of their profession and think they know everything- which is not possible.
This first old guy thought he knew everything. When he heard autism he wanted to know what behavior problems we were having, what were his problems at school, what behavior medications he was on and wanted to offer more of them. No, nooo, & nope. I’m grateful those medications exist and there is a place for them. But autism does not automatically equal the extreme need to be medicated.
We had gone to this doctor for a skin problem, not because my child existed. Mr. L is doing great in school actually, so well in fact that his teacher asked if he wanted to go to a production of the Nutcracker next month in another town and then out to a sit down restaurant with his mainstream peers. Yeah that doesn’t scream for a need to be medicated to me.
This old fella also didn’t believe natural remedies had a place in this world, and he didn’t talk to Mr. L like he was a human. He talked to me and I would gesture and tell him to ask my son the questions. Mr. L was the patient not me. If my son needed further clarification I would be happy to help, but my son is verbal even if he is delayed. This oldster seemed annoyed with us for existing, and his receptionist couldn’t make up her mind if they took our insurance or not. We had to go to this office twice and it wasn’t great.
There were so many red flags.
So when I went on to find a doctor for my other two children, I searched elsewhere and when I found a doctor who:
- Listened to my children
- Directed his inquiries to his little patients
- Asked me if I had any questions & asked if there was anything I wanted to tell him
- Physically got down to my kid’s level
- Asked well rounded life questions
- Was familiar with non-medication remedies and was open to them
- Had a friendly front office staff
- Was happy to answer our questions
- Offered my kids suckers & stickers
I felt like just maybe we found the right doctor for us.
When looking for a family doctor the little things really start to add up quickly. How have your experiences in looking for a doctor gone?